Felt this one all the way through. My friend sent a perfectly healthy 12 week scan picture into the group Whatsapp the day our scan revealed there hadn't been any growth and we'd have to schedule a D&C. There's the resentment, then the guilt of resentment, then the utter bewilderment that people can be so thoughtless.
Emily I'm so sorry. Sometimes the timing of these things is so painful. You capture the feelings so well here. Utter bewilderment has been with me so many times.
Louise Marie recommended your Substack to me, I can see already I’m going to enjoy your frank writing about the rubbishness of infertility. Thanks for writing.
“We become experts in reading the room, bracing for blows, both vigilant and defenceless.” Hit the nail on the head there, Helen! And I detest the phrase ‘we’ve got some news’... it’s like there is actually trauma for me with those words. x
Felt this one all the way through. My friend sent a perfectly healthy 12 week scan picture into the group Whatsapp the day our scan revealed there hadn't been any growth and we'd have to schedule a D&C. There's the resentment, then the guilt of resentment, then the utter bewilderment that people can be so thoughtless.
Emily I'm so sorry. Sometimes the timing of these things is so painful. You capture the feelings so well here. Utter bewilderment has been with me so many times.
Beautiful words as always ❤️
love you x
Louise Marie recommended your Substack to me, I can see already I’m going to enjoy your frank writing about the rubbishness of infertility. Thanks for writing.
“We become experts in reading the room, bracing for blows, both vigilant and defenceless.” Hit the nail on the head there, Helen! And I detest the phrase ‘we’ve got some news’... it’s like there is actually trauma for me with those words. x
I know, sends us right into the brace position doesn't it.