Love these words H. I think the decision making is such a bloody hard part of it all. You articulate what is needed so tenderly. I remember making decisions and then the decisions being taken away from me in all sorts of ways - sometimes when we let go of what we thought would happen or should happen, or as you say commit in different ways.. we can find ourselves in such completely unexpected territory. It might be better than we thought or worse but at least it IS rather than the continual cusp!
I’m in the inbetween or in the void or at the fork in the road. The latter feels very much my situation as we’re deciding between childless not by choice or an option that is really not we wanted when we set out on this journey. Thank you for sharing and putting those branches out for connection 💚
All the cusps, thanks for articulating as always Helen. When we chose a different path to go down, there was relief at being able to let the current one go, and this was my sign that it was right.
I’m also a very indecisive person (owing to anxiety, I’d wager) - I love what you write about not committing being a way of committing. x
It has been 4 years since we started trying to have our second child and despite our two miscarriages in that time we are still trying. My husband and I don’t have a time in mind to stop trying (I will be 37 this month, and he will be 40 in March). Our decision making basically looks like we are still trying as far as having unprotected sex during the fertile window and whenever we want, and if it happens for us, great, but if it doesn’t, we wanted to have that time to connect anyway. We aren’t pursuing treatment or any other avenues because we’re at the point where we don’t want to anymore, so we are comfortable with our current plan.
Love these words H. I think the decision making is such a bloody hard part of it all. You articulate what is needed so tenderly. I remember making decisions and then the decisions being taken away from me in all sorts of ways - sometimes when we let go of what we thought would happen or should happen, or as you say commit in different ways.. we can find ourselves in such completely unexpected territory. It might be better than we thought or worse but at least it IS rather than the continual cusp!
Gosh I hadn't thought about the decisions that got taken away - this feels like a whole other piece!
I’m in the inbetween or in the void or at the fork in the road. The latter feels very much my situation as we’re deciding between childless not by choice or an option that is really not we wanted when we set out on this journey. Thank you for sharing and putting those branches out for connection 💚
All the cusps, thanks for articulating as always Helen. When we chose a different path to go down, there was relief at being able to let the current one go, and this was my sign that it was right.
I’m also a very indecisive person (owing to anxiety, I’d wager) - I love what you write about not committing being a way of committing. x
It has been 4 years since we started trying to have our second child and despite our two miscarriages in that time we are still trying. My husband and I don’t have a time in mind to stop trying (I will be 37 this month, and he will be 40 in March). Our decision making basically looks like we are still trying as far as having unprotected sex during the fertile window and whenever we want, and if it happens for us, great, but if it doesn’t, we wanted to have that time to connect anyway. We aren’t pursuing treatment or any other avenues because we’re at the point where we don’t want to anymore, so we are comfortable with our current plan.